Act how you want to feel

“It’s better to act your way into feelings than to feel your way into action.” 

Bre and I aren’t always on the same page. I know, shocking right? Bre is perfect woman for me. And because I am the one writing this I will say that I am her dream man, and she is so luck… ok I’ll stop while I’m ahead. That being said, we have had those times where we just aren’t feeling it. Bad days come. Arguments happen.

If we waited for our feelings to line up before we could have a kind conversation with one another it would not happen. And actually over time we might grow further and further apart. 

But because we choose to take the time and effort to speak kind words or look to the great things about each other, our feelings follow. Our actions bring about the love we have for one another. Marriage is work, relationships in general are work. There isn't a magic feeling switch that we can just flip on, but if Bre and I don't choose to BE in love it won't just happen. Our actions are what causes that. Mine and Bre’s feelings can be irrational sometimes so we lean into the action side of things and oftentimes wonderful growth conversations can occur. 

So in our fitness journey, if we wait until we feel ready to take action we often won't. But if we choose to take action those feelings will often follow. I have seen a few of you show up even when your workout buddy can’t. I know how big of a deal that is so when I see it know that I understand the action you took meant battles with your feelings. Choose action over feelings in this department and 9/10 times it was the right call. Even if you have to modify what you were doing because your feelings truly were strong enough to effect how you felt working out. Great job acting.

Keep Building,

James Cooper